Recently, there has been a situation, specifically in the British YouTube community, where girls, both anonymously and non-anonymously, came forward about being victims of abusive relationships. The boys involved are three, quite well-known boys with YouTube channels and a decent amount of subscribers, which obviously also comes with a fanclub.
I do not know much about their stories, but I do know something about consent. Also, I know, that admitting to their mistakes will not take back what they have done.
What people have to realise is, that consent is a big deal.
This is, of course, very much underestimated in the teenage "rebelious" years and yes, I do realize that I sound like a conservative middle aged parent, but this is kind of a serious issue.
Relationships are great. Sex is great. Both have rules though, which question the morality of it all. But let's talk about relationships a little more.
What I have learnt from relationships, is that everything is built around trust. One must respect the privacy of their significant other. If these ground rules are to be broken, it could be leading towards an abusive relationship.
Now, bare with me here...
Being in an abusive relationship is like a drug. You get addicted and do everything just to keep the relationship going, even if it means giving up your dignity, happiness, family, close friends, anything. The theory is, that you remember the good days and they are the goal, while the "orders" you follow from the abuser seem to be the only way to get the good days. However, the good days never come, because the longer you go on, the more destroyed you are.
For people who have never experienced this (and I truly hope you never ever will) this might sound unrealistic. Unfortunately, escaping or facing this issue is the bravest yet most mentally exhausting thing to do in this situation. It requires everything.
The worst thing about it all, is that once you do snap out of the cycle, you still have to pick up and put together all the pieces that were the real you, before they were taken away from you. It feels like you have stopped living for a certain amount of time and just decayed and you will never get that certain amount of time back.
Now, I might be talking about an extreme situation, but any signs of abuse are serious and to be dealt with as soon as possible. I know it sounds super depressing, but awareness is important.
To whom this may or may not be relevant:
Do not tell yourself, that you can handle it and just keep waiting patiently for the good days. They might never come. Break the cycle of fear and shatter before it breaks you. NOBODY deserves to be treated this way. NOBODY can tell you what or who you are besides you and only you. NOBODY can take the people you care most about away from you. And nobody will be able to bring back those days/months/years. You know what I'm talking about.
Sorry about the depressing post, but I felt I needed to take part in this subject. I really hope the awareness among YouTubers on this subject will help many people.
Much love. Be happpppyyyyyyy!!!!!!11!!!!1!
Get ready for low budget humour in the next post.
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